{"id":2857,"date":"2011-09-22T00:00:21","date_gmt":"2011-09-22T00:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pcdcr.org\/?p=2857"},"modified":"2016-02-28T13:51:44","modified_gmt":"2016-02-28T13:51:44","slug":"%d9%81%d9%86-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%aa%d8%b9%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%84-%d9%85%d8%b9-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%a3%d8%a8%d9%86%d8%a7%d8%a1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pcdcr.org\/en\/%d9%81%d9%86-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%aa%d8%b9%d8%a7%d9%85%d9%84-%d9%85%d8%b9-%d8%a7%d9%84%d8%a3%d8%a8%d9%86%d8%a7%d8%a1\/","title":{"rendered":"The art of dealing with children"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\n
<\/td>\nDealing with children is an art that many fathers and mothers find hard at some period of life, and parents often ask about the best ways of dealing with their children. The truth is that a child's sense of himself comes through the way you treat him. If you make him feel your love and that he is a good child, for example, this idea will take root in him; but if you deal with him without patience and are constantly blaming and scolding him, he will grow up on that, will form a bad idea of himself, and will end up in depression and frustration, or in rebellion and disobedience.<\/p>\n

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Teach him where the fault lies:<\/p>\n

If you see him doing things you do not like, or unacceptable acts, let him know that the fault is not in him as a person but that the mistake is in his behaviour, not in him as a human being. Say: \"You did something that was not good\" instead of saying: \"You are a bad boy\", and say to him: \"Your behaviour towards your brother was harsh\" instead of telling him: \"You are a naughty boy\".<\/p>\n

How do you deal with your child when he makes a mistake?<\/p>\n

Instead of cursing the darkness, light a candle.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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  1. Restore the child's confidence after a mistake, for confidence is always the soothing remedy.<\/li>\n
  2. When the child makes a mistake, ask yourself: did you teach him so that he would not make it?<\/li>\n
  3. Teach him to take responsibility for his mistakes so that he acquires the skill of self-control.<\/li>\n
  4. Make him feel the consequences of the mistake so that a desire to change it is born in him.<\/li>\n
  5. Look for the motives behind his mistake so that you treat the root rather than the symptoms.<\/li>\n
  6. Be beside him and share his feelings so that you exercise your guidance in a positive way.<\/li>\n
  7. Smile as you make him aware of the mistake and convince him of it.<\/li>\n
  8. Separate the mistake from the child's character.<\/li>\n
  9. Punish firmly and simply, with the simple rule of time out for 5 to 10 minutes in a room when he does something wrong.<\/li>\n
  10. Satisfy your child's psychological needs and make him feel loved and wanted so that he feels reassured, but this must not reach the point of excessive pampering.<\/li>\n
  11. Do not make him fear failure. Teach him the art of getting up again and do not let him withdraw because of failure.<\/li>\n
  12. Highlight the abilities that will enable him to succeed in future attempts.<\/li>\n
  13. Teach him resilience and insistence on success in the face of feelings of frustration.<\/li>\n
  14. Do not despair of your child however often he repeats his mistake.<\/li>\n
  15. Teach him to rely on himself to get past the mistake and to take the right decision.<\/li>\n
  16. Give him good news so that you make him an optimistic person, for optimism strengthens the will.<\/li>\n
  17. Listen to him closely and attentively so that you understand the root of the mistake.<\/li>\n
  18. Be sure that love, forgiveness and a smile are stronger than anger and agitation.<\/li>\n
  19. Intervene when you have calmed down.<\/li>\n
  20. Keep away from the method of hitting and belittling, particularly in front of his peers.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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