Women and men

By Mona Ghoneim
A woman's past is forbidden?? And a man's past
An experiment!!
Admiration or love between a young man and a girl reaches the level of an unforgivable crime, for if the law does not punish it explicitly, then the customs, traditions and conventions in this society are what issue the ruling and decide the punishment. As soon as the relationship between the girl and the boy ends, she is classified under the following,,,,,,,

The young man is judged to have had an experiment, an amusement, a diversion and a folly, and it is forgiven him, while on the other side the girl is judged to be a traitor, unrestrained and at fault, and must not escape punishment

This double standard of social criteria has driven us to say
((Permitted for men.. and forbidden for women...)) It has also driven us to several questions?? among them

- What is the reason for a young man's refusal to marry a girl with a past??

- And why does the girl accept marriage to a young man with a past..??
- And does the man have the right to hold the woman to account for her past while the woman has no such right??

- And what about the man who resorts to divorcing his wife when he learns of her emotional past?

Many questions are in our minds and await an answer
Is our society, which holds the girl to account for every matter small and large while leaving the young man unwatched, the cause??

The talk about this subject is abundant, so whom do we believe and whom do we disbelieve? They say of the girl that she is a traitor, and they say of the man that it is youthful "folly".

Why are young men's mistakes folly? And girls' mistakes a crime??
A young man's mistake is folly!!! And a girl's mistakes are a crime ::

Even in committing mistakes!! We find that society distinguishes between the young man and the girl.
For if a young man and a girl are caught in an indecent situation or otherwise in a private or public place,

We see the young man acquitted in a short time, and society overlooks his mistakes and forgets them.
And we see the young man continuing his life as if nothing had happened.
On the other side, society treats the girl who has erred as a criminal or a deviant, for she has wronged herself, her family and her society, and we find everyone lying in wait to get at her and to sentence her to death, and she becomes an outcast all her life. Even her chance of marriage decreases and may vanish after she drops out of the calculations of any young man wishing to marry.

And by these words of mine I do not mean that a person should overlook the mistakes of human beings, whether a young man or a girl, but a person must be given another chance in their life. What I mean is mercy and gentleness towards the girl, for if God, who is the creator of everything and above everything, exalted be He, is pleased with and forgives the unbeliever who did and did whatever sins he pleased, after his repentance...

Then can we human beings not forgive and renew the smile in the life of people who have died while still alive!!!

So is it just that the girl should bear this burden alone, and pay the price of her mistake all her life...........???

And do we give the young man free rein to experiment?
To err on the pretext of "folly" and whims...? And what is society's responsibility